Seyi Shay

Women From…. Are More Attractive

Entertainment, Relationship

I posted a question on my social media outlets a week or so ago (cheap plug ig: MsLeslieChristina  twitter : mynameisLC) I asked if you would be open to dating someone from a different cultural background or race. Now this question was a bit misleading but I wanted to see how many people were truly open to it. Everyone seemed to be open to it with the exception of one guy on my facebook page.

To be honest I was actually shocked. I really expected more black women to be like no I am sticking with my black brothers. I also expected the African women to say they are sticking with men from their country, to even break it down more their tribe! Now honestly if they didn’t feel this way I guess I couldn’t really expect them to say it. Some people might think they are close minded (shrugs).

What made me ask this question is a conversation that I had with a long time acquaintance. This particular guy (sigh) well lets just say he has made many outlandish comments over the years I have known him. So we were chit chatting and somehow we got on the topic of women. Keep in mind he is a Nigerian guy born in Nigeria been here since he was in high school. He tells me he isn’t attracted to Nigerian women. I have heard this before from Nigerian guys. I remember telling one girl I know this who is Nigerian and she told me they only tell me that because they guys want to get in my pants (Shade).

When this guy said that to me I was offeneded, no I am not Nigerian (Its true I don’t have time to explain read “The Struggle”) but many of… wait almost all the women I hang around are.  He asked me “Why are you getting offeneded, I’m on your team. I love Black Americans and Latinas”. I guess this comment was suppose to win him brownie points with me. However I just was annoyed.

I’m on your team? What the hell does that mean? I am on the team of black women American, Caribbean, African ect. I told him he was very stupid for that comment and that I don’t think it’s the fact that he isn’t attracted to Nigerian women, it’s the fact that he doesn’t want to do what it takes to be with a woman from Nigeria.  Its simply laziness on his part, not wanting to go through the proper channels to be with her.

With women like Omotola, Genevieve, Sharon Oja,  Tiwa Savage, Seyi Shay (My girl crush), I could go on and on how can you say that Nigerian women aren’t attractive?

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Genevieve Nnaji

I would have felt the same way if an American Black guy said he doesn’t like black girls. My question is why? What did you mother, sisters, aunts, cousins do to you to turn you against you own women? Do you think your family members are ugly? I am sure the answer is no  and he would be offened if someone came to his sister or cousin saying they didn’t find them attractive bc of where they were born.

As of late I am happy to see more Nigerian women dating men outside of their race. Many Nigerian guys have an issue with Nigerian women datig and marrying other races, like many black men don’t like to see black women dating men from other races. I really don’t get it. These men go around the world and taste all the colors of the rainbow but as soon as women from their background does it; its an issue.

I have always had the mindset that if you don’t want to date/ marry someone from your own race or culture its not because of those people its your own issues you need to work through. I say this from experience. There is nothing wrong with being with someone from a different race or background, the fault is when you say a whole group of people are unattractive. Miss me with all that ignorance!

Forget Normal… Hello Bi-polar


I am not sure why people come to me for relationship advice, but people do! For others I seem to give sound advice (I guess) but when it comes to myself I don’t know up from down, or left to right! Its actually quite crazy.

I had my dentist tell me “I’m too logical” and because of that it will be hard for me to find a man. Yes my dentist and I were cool! He was an OLD man, an old Kappa to be exact who had been divorced 3 times. I figured after 3 marriages he knew a thing or two  but like me didn’t know how to apply it to himself. When he said that, I prayed and rebuked that in the name of Jesus, how will you tell me that I will not get a man because I am too logical? A man should want that; a woman that doesn’t go off the emotional deep end, right?

However it seems to be the crazy @#%$!  getting married (no shade to all my married friends, you ladies are to the exception lol). You know the type that go crazy, that are nuts if you push them.  I’m like what the eff man? Look I just don’t have the energy for all of that. I really don’t. It takes too much time and attention to throw fits, sneak through your mans phone, follow him ect. Is that what love is, because if so, I may want that ship to sail.

According to New York Times who interviewed various men, they said things like “She was never boring”, “it was like figuring out a puzzle” ect ect ect it goes on and on. So working, being cute, self- sufficient, not needy, not bitchy, is dull? I’m so confused.  So sensible women are out and crazy women are in? I think guys SAY they don’t want a mentally disturbed woman but end up with chicks that are a little bit turnt in the head.  They don’t realize it until they are the show “Snapped”!

I mean….. I want to put the effort into getting a spouse but not if it means I have to step out of my element. I want to be the cool, chill chick that I am. I am not going to make a fuss unless I REALLY have to. I know there are other ladies out there like me. You know busy with various things, work, school, multiple businesses, just making things happen for themselves. The last thing we need is a man who doesn’t know what he wants …. Or maybe they do! A PSYCHOPATH (now I’m just being childish). No matter how many people you see walk down aisle don’t change yourself for anyone, unless you are changing yourself for you! “Dull” women unite! (Yea I said that).


Don’t Be Surprised If She Ask Where The Cash At

Entertainment, Gossip, Relationship


A few weeks ago I posted a video of a lady begging guys not to come her way if they are broke. It was actually kind of funny, but some of the things she said disturbed me a bit. I didn’t give my thoughts on my page but today I want to share how she (the lady in the video) was right and wrong.

In the video the woman explained that if you approach a woman and she looks good you should help maintain that look especially if she is doing things a woman should do for a man. I assume she meant smashing ect but mainly smashing and less of the ect. To a certain degree I agree with her, yes I do! Fellas if you are attracted to a woman who looks like a million bucks more than likely she probably doesn’t have anything to her name and is looking for someone to help maintain that look. So if you want to hit that be ready to come out of pocket simple. Trust me she will expect it. If you don’t want to deal with it then don’t go her way simple.

How can you tell a woman like this, she usually has labels warring all over the place from head to toe, long long weave, is out all the time on the scene, make up is usually very heavy, only hangs around big rollers even though she can barely pay her phone bill, oh and her red bottoms cost more than her cash car she bought almost 6 years ago, and how can I forget if her face says half cast but her hands looks like her people came from Ghana (no offense to my Ghanaian beauties, black is beautiful). Gold digging chicks love to bleach. The girl in the video was sitting on the floor in a room that appeared to be small considering the only background scene she could pick was that next to a shoe rack and some other cluttered mess. Maybe her mattress was on the floor too. She clearly has nothing going on besides trying to bed men for material things.

Her mentality on relationships was messed up as well. She said something along the lines of “When the relationship is over you will talk bad about me anyway” that tells me she doesn’t care to have a long lasting relationship. She is already anticipating the relationships demise. She wants to get what she can from the guy and then move on to the next.

If you are with a woman and when you met her she had herself packaged well, meaning she gets her hair done, lashes, makeup, nails, gym membership, you get it. As a man that is with her you should want to do those things bc you love and value her. Not because she warms your bed at night and cooks you food. A dog can lay next to you and you can always get some aunty to cook you your favorite stew without the headache of a woman.  There needs to be more than sex and food although some may say that is the easiest way to a man’s heart.

Being an independent woman doesn’t mean we don’t want a man to do for us, that just means we don’t NEED a man to do for us. This chick in the video appears she needs a man to do for her its a very clear and distinct difference.  I guess what you can take away from this post is fellas if you are going after a woman who appears to be high maintenance then my broda be ready to open your wallets simple! Also on the same note women like to be pampered and no matter how independent she is its nice to have a guy be thoughtful enough to say hey you are getting your hair done? Don’t worry I got you or oh you are going shopping come lets use my car and my credit card. Do it bc you care about her not bc you are sleeping with her.  Last thing to take away is watch out for women with two tone bodies they are sure to chop all your money on bleaching cream to become one tone lol.


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LUX MONROE *Chic Boutique*

Entertainment, Fashion, NEWS



Bye no means am I a shopper but when I find a good thing I love to share it! I follow a boutique called Lux Monroe on instagram and noticed this wasn’t just an online shop but an actual store. I love to support local businesses so I decided to drop in and started talking to a young lady there only to find out she was the owner. She was pleasant and you can tell she really has a passion for her work.

Love this

Laci Jackson opened up LUX MONROE on W. Alabama in the Galleria area after doing trunk shows and different events for about three years “it was a God thing I was driving, and I made the decision that I wanted to go out and find a location. I had a budget of what I could afford and I don’t even know why I was in the Galleria area, but I got out of my car and just started walking and found something great” said Jackson.


As we continued our conversation I noticed that the clothes and pieces were bold (which I like) Jackson stated “clothing has been the latest edition to my business but it has been the best part, my clothing is very different nothing you can find in the mall. I have statement pieces; bold fashion that I would say is for divas!!!” Lux Monroe’s clothing is sexy, bold, and fun perfect for a night out on the town and perfect for all the divas out there!

Every girl needs a good Romper

Every girl needs a good Romper

Black and White Romper

I love supporting local businesses but more importantly I like to support other women, more important than supporting women, I like to support YOUNG women! Laci is 23 years old and she is already making moves to build an empire. Ladies and gents reading this (men by for your wives, girlfriends ect) take time follow @luxlaci on Instagram and support!

Meet Laci Jackson founder of Lux Monroe


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The Magical O

Entertainment, NEWS, Relationship

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An orgasm for most women is a myth. Yes the magical O. Some women will go their whole marriage and never experience an orgasm. Many women don’t even experience a vaginal orgasm until their 30’s. Not only are we complicated emotionally but physically too. If a man can give a woman a proper orgasm consistently it would be hard for her to leave.

Women are more than physical, we require emotional attention as well. What you do 24 hours in advance to you having sexual intercourse with your woman really matters.  Some women are simple so showering her with sweet text messages throughout the day, or putting a love note in her purse unexpectedly will get her juices flowing long before you even think of getting in the bed for the night. If the woman is a shopper surprise her with her with a purse, hell even if she isn’t a shopper a nice hand bag is never a bad idea. If you live together have her daily chores done such as dishes, clean the living area, do the laundry ect you get the idea. Sweet nothings really help you in the sense of getting sex on a regular basis and it helps her bc she is more sexually excited to have sex with you. This is how you get one step closer to giving her the big O.

Statistically 80% of women have never had an orgasm. No fellas it’s not that these women have not met the right man, it’s just some women take a little more TLC to get there if you know what I mean. You have to be willing to put in the work. In order to give a woman a vaginal orgasm you have to know what you are looking for. Using your index or middle finger enter the woman’s vaginal area and about 2/3’s in you should feel a kind of rough spongy area; this area is called the “G-spot”. At this point you want to take time and listen to your lady, if she is feeling right she will let you know through her movements and sounds if it’s not feeling right well…. you will know that too! Also by feeling around with your finger you will have an idea of the area you need to target when having intercourse. The key thing is to listen to your woman’s body, that will tell you if what you are doing is correct.


Most people are familiar with the clitoral orgasm; typically women who cannot get a vaginal orgasm are very familiar with a clitoral orgasm.  The major difference between the vaginal orgasm and clitoral orgasm is the location, so fellas if at first you don’t succeed try again but with a different method! The clitoris is very sensitive so be gentile with it. If you are reading this chances are you are not in high school any more so moving the finger back and forth over the clitoris in a fast motion will not cut it. You can massage it first with your hand, maybe use a vibrating toy to stimulate sensation, but the best and most selfless thing to do is to stimulate her orally. If you are going to take that step and go there make sure you have done your research. There is nothing worse than a guy ACTING like he knows what he is doing. She will tell you what to do if for whatever reason you didn’t get around to researching things and also listen to her body.

So guys what have we learned today? We learned that women are much more likely to have sex with you when she sees you when you actually show some effort, and the effort doesn’t always have to be major, but you can never go wrong with a nice hand bag. You also learned how to find the G- spot and that oral stimulation on the clitoris is awesome as long as you do it right! Take this info and go make some lovely lady happy!

10 Guys You Should Run From

Entertainment, Relationship

10. Mr. No Linens

This guy has no shame and that should worry you. He has no shame because as a grown man he actually invited you to his home in his room (if you guys are going there) and he has no sheets on his bed. Just a mattress with a comforter on it. Ladies don’t gasp its true these type of men exist in the world. If you go to a man’s house and you notice he has no sheets on his bed RUN because he gives no f***s. A man that gives no F***s has nothing to lose!

9. Mr. Glory Days

This guy can’t seem to get over things that happened to him that he feels were great in his younger days. He is now 35 and still reminiscing about when he was 25 at the club with 15 of his CLOSEST friends and they popped 25 bottles between the 15 of them. You know because that night was soooo epic! What about the guy who was the high school basketball star and pretty much that was the end of his career but yet he really hasn’t done much since and is still talking about his former balling days 20 years later. Let it go bro, its over!

8. Mr. Daddy Said

Daddy said I should, or my pops told me to, I don’t want to go there because my dad said…. This has to be the most annoying thing in a man. A man that can’t think for himself is such a turn off. There is nothing wrong with consulting one’s parents because clearly your parents have lived much longer than you, but as a woman I want to know that my man has a mind of his own. A woman wants to know he can take wise counsel and still come to his own conclusion at the end of the day based on what people he trust have advised him. Not someone who just follows. A man that does that follows every single little word his daddy says will have his family running your marriage.

7. Mr. Standing on the Wall

This particular guy has no confidence. He doesn’t like it when you talk about other people or guys that are doing well finically because typically they aren’t doing well in that regard. Sometimes they will even try to hold you back so that you are not “above” them. Basically this guy is insecure about his status in life but really isn’t doing much to change it. RUN RUN RUN unless you want to be looking and longing for the finer things in life.

6. Mr. Boaster

There is nothing like a guy who can talk about all the things he and his family has but yet when you two go to eat he is looking for you to pay the bill (Tufiakwa). This guy will go broke trying to buy the latest pair of Vesace shades to keep up with his friends (who probably actually have money). He will be the fun guy, charismatic, maybe even good in bed but other than that not good for much else. I mean come on ladies you don’t want to be like Erika from Love and Hiphop Atl. Her dude couldn’t even make a dramatic exit because he ran out of gas! LOL He was cute though (If that means anything). The Boaster will constantly be broke and when he does get some money in his pocket he will be running to the Gucci store so he can front and stunt in front of his friends. Don’t run, sprint from this guy, simple running may not be enough!

5. Mr. Has it Together but Still 40 and Single

What is wrong with this one? On the outside he has a good job, nice house, drives a nice car travels, handsome, but what is it?! Mr. Has it together does actually have it together, but here is the catch he can’t commit! This guy may have lost his one true love and has never bounced back, so he dates woman after woman because that’s what he feels he should do, but never really loving them or caring for them. Eventually he will find some young chick marry her and just be existing in the same house with her simply because he doesn’t want to be the old man in the club still chasing 25 year olds. Ladies if you are between the age of 22 and 26 this 40+ man may be for you. Don’t expect any real emotion from him, cook, clean, do your wifely duties and this guy will make you the envy of your friends. Run from this guy if you are 28 and over lol you are too OLD.

4. Mr. I am a Business Man

This Business man can never really tell you what his business is. No matter how you ask he finds some way around telling you what he actually does. He typically is involved with fraud, or fraud, and oh fraud. Ladies he may actually have some money for a little while but you have to run from this guy because he may actually scam YOU. He may ask you to deposit a check or accept a wire transfer into your account from his super rich friend that happens to be in the islands on vacation but can’t seem to find any of his close friends to accept it so he will ask a girl he doesn’t know like me….. uh I mean you to accept it (yes this story is all too familiar). Just run you don’t even want to be associated with this kind of “Business man” as a matter of fact if you see that kind of “business man” just act as if you don’t even know him, because if you do people may come for you looking for him and he will be gone!

3. Mr. Better Than Sliced Bread

Sliced bread is good. Its convenient. I can make a sandwich out of sliced bread, I can even toast sliced bread. However I don’t need my man thinking he is better than it. This guy feels like he is God’s gift to women, hell now-a-days to man too! He thinks everyone wants him, he thinks he is the heaven, moon, and stars. A man that worships himself cannot even treat his woman properly because he feels if she is not worshiping the ground he walks on she is actually doing an injustice to herself. This man does not need a woman all he needs is a gym and a mirror; that is the perfect relationship for him!

2. Mr. Party Party Party

We ALLLLL know this guy, we have dated, slept with, wanted to date, wanted to sleep with this guy (not me ooo other people lol). This guy is standing on the couch poppin bottles, knows everyone, hanging tough, drives a nice car, has all the beautiful women around, always posting what party city he is in on IG or FB. The thing about this guy is unless you have crack between your legs and you do juju this guy is not trying to settle down, not for a long while anyway. If you like playing the waiting game, watching him with other chicks until its your turn again then hey this may be the man for you. Until that long awaited time when he comes to his senses you will see him spend 2k in the club in one night and nothing or minimal on you the whole time you were in a “relationship” if that’s what you want to call it. Ladies stay away from this guy he is not serious and probably has slept with your friend, or tried to sleep with your friend and then when that didn’t pan out try to come talk to you lol (trust me this kind of stuff happens).

1. Mr. I Want a Nurse

The highly coveted NURSE!!!! The women that should read this number one probably have no idea who I am or about this blog. She is the village girl roughly 20 or so that will soon be swept off her feet by a 45 year old Uncle that has been driving cab for the past 25 years. This guy will live in the slums to ensure that he saves up the proper amount of money to go back to his country and pick the hottest girl from his village (I said girl bc usually she will be very young about half his age). After he has brought her to America she will be instructed that she must go to school and become a nurse and now she will be the one to take care of the “land pilot” (anyone that has seen the movie “My American Nurse” knows what that is lol) It happens all the time. After the girl has been here for some time she starts to know her rights and these men cannot handle it. Many have resulted to killing their wives who they feel have stepped out of line. Ladies abroad we know about these guys but inform your sisters back home!


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Social media is an active part of everyone’s lives. Even if you boycott against Facebook, you are probably on twitter, if you boycott against twitter you are probably on Instagram, or maybe you are like me and on all three. Social media if used for good can be great, I have seen it unite the world for a cause. I know a guy who used social media to help raise money for his mother to help her get cancer treatments, people from all around the world gave money for that.  Whether he knew them or not everyone can relate to wanting to help their mother. Even though the girls are still lost, the world came together when it was made known that 200 plus school girls had been abducted in Nigeria. Social media is indeed a great thing, but how about when social media goes wrong?

Recently this tag #jadapose was brought to my attention. Apparently this young lady, Jada was at a friend’s house where she was drugged and raped. After the rape they decided to take a picture of her naked unconscious body and post it on social media. You would think at this point kids would be like “this isn’t right” “we should inform someone” ect. Instead the kids, her peers started doing the pose that she did in the picture when she was unconscious and raped calling it the #jadapose. Boys and girls alike participated in this act.  They would lay on the ground and imitate Jada.

Young boys mocking Jadas  rape picture

Young boys mocking Jadas rape picture


Jada Pose



I don’t know in what world imitaiting someone who was just raped is a cool thing. This tells us that something is seriously flawed in our youth. Maybe social media has removed feeling and emotion from certain situations. Our youth are exposed to so many things online that there is no shock value anymore. The shock value has been raised so high that its starting to get to a point where people are just doing stupid things because they want someone to look at them. Did this generation not get enough hugs? How many fights can we see on Facebook and Instagram? We know how its going to end, someone is going to be talking sh!t and the other person will more than likely knock them out, end of story. Yet every other post on my new feed is people fighting. Now I guess fighting has gotten boring and so we are highlighting a young girls rape!

I have never been raped and thank God but I can imagine that it would feel like a serious violation. I feel violated when someone touches me unwarranted not to mention if someone drugged me and had their way with me. For someone at the age of 16 to be going through this so publicly takes courage and strength. This is such a private matter and most rape victims don’t even speak up until years later or not at all. Whether she wanted to or not her face and her body was displayed for all to see, then mocked in a cartoonish fashion for others amusement. I stand with Jada because no one deserves to be treated like that, no one deserves to have a piece of themselves taken away and then exposed for the world to see in such a humiliating manner. As I am writing this I am just getting more upset, because it baffles me how people think they have a right to do things to other people such as killing, raping, causing emotional or psychical harm ect. It’s just ridiculous, what kind home were the boys that did this raised in? Houston has been a part of a lot of things but I never thought promoting drugging a young girl and raping her would be one of them.

Despite of all the ugliness that has been going viral regarding this issue there has been many people stepping up to support Jada, including her parents who are her rock during this time. I also searched online and many of her friends as well as complete strangers are speaking up loudly against this foolishness, I even found a song done by an artist named King Fredrick (click his name to hear the song). Watching the interview that Jada did with KHOU she looks like a brave girl who is ready and willing to be the voice for this cause. I always like to see the light at the end of the tunnel and here the light seems dim but I have a good feeling Jada will bounce back and become stronger.  There is still an investigation going on but I hope justice will prevail. Spread the word that having a woman by force is not the new thing, cool, funny, or manly!



No Parent should have to go through this with their child

No Parent should have to go through this with their child


We are here for you Jada!


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Please share and hashtag #justiceforjada

Please share and hashtag #justiceforjada