Would You Date You?

Entertainment, NEWS, Relationship

I know a guy that is handsome, comes from a good family, has a great career, makes loads of money, went to a prestigious school, did I mention he is HOT. On paper he is what women are looking for.  He is what you would consider the ideal guy! Most people tend to look good on paper, but do these things make you a proper candidate for dating or marriage?

Now here are the things that are not on paper. That trip he took to Brazil with his boys where they brought several girls to the room and slept with multiple women that night. Were condoms used? He can’t really remember because he was so drunk but it was a good night! What about his horrible spending habit?  Duh he can’t stay fly without spending stupid amounts of money on the latest! What about the fact that he has local strippers numbers on speed dial, you know just in case.  Don’t get me wrong this is not to pick on men because women are just as guilty. I am sure if we can play memories like a movie that some women in the Houston area would want OTC weekend to be skipped!

The reason why I bring up things like this is because people want to be in relationships with people they think they deserve as oppose to people they actually deserve.  I had one of my guy friends tell me the type of woman he wants to marry. Of course he wanted a woman no one knew, had not been with many guys (or a virgin), smart, educated, the list goes on and on.  Let’s talk about the guy! He is cool otherwise I wouldn’t be friends with him. However if he had a woman like himself, she would have slept with more than one man at a time, be flying from place to place meeting up with various men, having men trick money on her, she would be smart and make money, but the bottom line is she would be a ho (lol).  Doesn’t the Bible say you should be equally yoked?

Not everyone’s issue is sex sometimes it can be attitude, lack of motivation to do more with your life; perhaps you don’t have a good work life balance. The thing is you have to understand and recognize the issue you have. Many people feel they are perfect which is why a guy who has devirginized (my made up word for the day) half the city can stand up and say he wants to marry a virgin. He is delusional as many of us (yes I can be delusional too ) are.

I knew a person that at the end of every year would sit and write out the pros and cons of her life. That to me is really profound. If you don’t take time to evaluate relationships, situations you could have handled better, things that you can improve on about yourself in general then how will you grow? There are some people who think they have it all figured out, then there are others that seem clueless. At the end of the day they both have to live and learn.

No one is perfect but if you know you aren’t ready to have someone’s heart in your hand, it’s better to be alone to sort yourself out, I think you will find the relationship will go smoothly. Make improvements everyday so that you will become irresistible to yourself this making you a hot commodity to someone else!

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Women From…. Are More Attractive

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I posted a question on my social media outlets a week or so ago (cheap plug ig: MsLeslieChristina  twitter : mynameisLC) I asked if you would be open to dating someone from a different cultural background or race. Now this question was a bit misleading but I wanted to see how many people were truly open to it. Everyone seemed to be open to it with the exception of one guy on my facebook page.

To be honest I was actually shocked. I really expected more black women to be like no I am sticking with my black brothers. I also expected the African women to say they are sticking with men from their country, to even break it down more their tribe! Now honestly if they didn’t feel this way I guess I couldn’t really expect them to say it. Some people might think they are close minded (shrugs).

What made me ask this question is a conversation that I had with a long time acquaintance. This particular guy (sigh) well lets just say he has made many outlandish comments over the years I have known him. So we were chit chatting and somehow we got on the topic of women. Keep in mind he is a Nigerian guy born in Nigeria been here since he was in high school. He tells me he isn’t attracted to Nigerian women. I have heard this before from Nigerian guys. I remember telling one girl I know this who is Nigerian and she told me they only tell me that because they guys want to get in my pants (Shade).

When this guy said that to me I was offeneded, no I am not Nigerian (Its true I don’t have time to explain read “The Struggle”) but many of… wait almost all the women I hang around are.  He asked me “Why are you getting offeneded, I’m on your team. I love Black Americans and Latinas”. I guess this comment was suppose to win him brownie points with me. However I just was annoyed.

I’m on your team? What the hell does that mean? I am on the team of black women American, Caribbean, African ect. I told him he was very stupid for that comment and that I don’t think it’s the fact that he isn’t attracted to Nigerian women, it’s the fact that he doesn’t want to do what it takes to be with a woman from Nigeria.  Its simply laziness on his part, not wanting to go through the proper channels to be with her.

With women like Omotola, Genevieve, Sharon Oja,  Tiwa Savage, Seyi Shay (My girl crush), I could go on and on how can you say that Nigerian women aren’t attractive?

Seyi Shay

Omotola

Genevieve Nnaji

I would have felt the same way if an American Black guy said he doesn’t like black girls. My question is why? What did you mother, sisters, aunts, cousins do to you to turn you against you own women? Do you think your family members are ugly? I am sure the answer is no  and he would be offened if someone came to his sister or cousin saying they didn’t find them attractive bc of where they were born.

As of late I am happy to see more Nigerian women dating men outside of their race. Many Nigerian guys have an issue with Nigerian women datig and marrying other races, like many black men don’t like to see black women dating men from other races. I really don’t get it. These men go around the world and taste all the colors of the rainbow but as soon as women from their background does it; its an issue.

I have always had the mindset that if you don’t want to date/ marry someone from your own race or culture its not because of those people its your own issues you need to work through. I say this from experience. There is nothing wrong with being with someone from a different race or background, the fault is when you say a whole group of people are unattractive. Miss me with all that ignorance!