Don’t Be Surprised If She Ask Where The Cash At

Entertainment, Gossip, Relationship

 

A few weeks ago I posted a video of a lady begging guys not to come her way if they are broke. It was actually kind of funny, but some of the things she said disturbed me a bit. I didn’t give my thoughts on my page but today I want to share how she (the lady in the video) was right and wrong.

In the video the woman explained that if you approach a woman and she looks good you should help maintain that look especially if she is doing things a woman should do for a man. I assume she meant smashing ect but mainly smashing and less of the ect. To a certain degree I agree with her, yes I do! Fellas if you are attracted to a woman who looks like a million bucks more than likely she probably doesn’t have anything to her name and is looking for someone to help maintain that look. So if you want to hit that be ready to come out of pocket simple. Trust me she will expect it. If you don’t want to deal with it then don’t go her way simple.

How can you tell a woman like this, she usually has labels warring all over the place from head to toe, long long weave, is out all the time on the scene, make up is usually very heavy, only hangs around big rollers even though she can barely pay her phone bill, oh and her red bottoms cost more than her cash car she bought almost 6 years ago, and how can I forget if her face says half cast but her hands looks like her people came from Ghana (no offense to my Ghanaian beauties, black is beautiful). Gold digging chicks love to bleach. The girl in the video was sitting on the floor in a room that appeared to be small considering the only background scene she could pick was that next to a shoe rack and some other cluttered mess. Maybe her mattress was on the floor too. She clearly has nothing going on besides trying to bed men for material things.

Her mentality on relationships was messed up as well. She said something along the lines of “When the relationship is over you will talk bad about me anyway” that tells me she doesn’t care to have a long lasting relationship. She is already anticipating the relationships demise. She wants to get what she can from the guy and then move on to the next.

If you are with a woman and when you met her she had herself packaged well, meaning she gets her hair done, lashes, makeup, nails, gym membership, you get it. As a man that is with her you should want to do those things bc you love and value her. Not because she warms your bed at night and cooks you food. A dog can lay next to you and you can always get some aunty to cook you your favorite stew without the headache of a woman.  There needs to be more than sex and food although some may say that is the easiest way to a man’s heart.

Being an independent woman doesn’t mean we don’t want a man to do for us, that just means we don’t NEED a man to do for us. This chick in the video appears she needs a man to do for her its a very clear and distinct difference.  I guess what you can take away from this post is fellas if you are going after a woman who appears to be high maintenance then my broda be ready to open your wallets simple! Also on the same note women like to be pampered and no matter how independent she is its nice to have a guy be thoughtful enough to say hey you are getting your hair done? Don’t worry I got you or oh you are going shopping come lets use my car and my credit card. Do it bc you care about her not bc you are sleeping with her.  Last thing to take away is watch out for women with two tone bodies they are sure to chop all your money on bleaching cream to become one tone lol.

 

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How Important Is The Value Of Your Name

Entertainment, Gossip

Yesterday I was involved in a lively group chat on Groupme. My cousin is getting married and his wife started a GroupMe chat for all the asoebi ladies. We talked about this and we talked about that. Keep in mind these ladies are from all over the country. One lady asked “Whats up with the Houston guys (Nigerian guys)? I have thought about moving there but I heard the dating scene in Houston is tough.” This is not the first time I have heard women in other parts of the country talk about the Nigerian guys in Houston. It seems they have made quite a reputation for themselves. I responded to her with “I think if you grew up or went to college here its hard because you may have slept with one guy, maybe two, possibly seen having lunch with 3 (as friends) and someone has seen you and now you are labeled as a ho”

Yup!!! That’s exactly the way it works. There could be a group of guys sitting around and a girl will walk by and the guy will randomly say “Oh yea so and so smashed her” keep in mind the guy that is saying all of this may have never even spoken two words to the girl EVER in his life but he THINKS he knows who she has let in-between her legs.

Women are not exempt from this either. There was/is a girl I know and every time you mention a guys name that is interested in you she knows someone he did wrong, use to date, or he has tried to holla at her. Now if I tell you about a guy that I am into why do I care to hear about him and your homegirl I do not know nor do I care about? Furthermore if I am interested in a guy how is telling me that he tried to “Holla” at you going to help me out? Some womans’ definition of “holla” is suspect. A guy may say oh “Ngozi you are a fine babe you know I am going to make you my wife” and the girl will now walk around with her head in the clouds like “Emeka wants me oooo” NO NO NO he does not want you lol and that’s not hollering. Anyway I digress (I do that often)

The name spoiling has just gotten out of control especially among the guys. The reason I say it’s among the guys is because some guys will go around and ruin a girl’s name because she turned him down. Yes guys lie on their dicks all the time, but if one guy is sitting with another and say “Oh yea I hit that” is the guy that he is telling that to going to go ask the girl “Hey did you and John have sex?” of course not!!! (Negro you ain’t gotsta lie) He will take John at his word and keep it moving scratching that girl off of his list as a potential and also discouraging any of his friends from talking to her as well by simply saying “I heard she smashed so and so” or “I mean you can talk to her if you want to but I mean… I don’t know dude” boom she is done!

 

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A lot can be said for a guy who feels the need to ruin the name of girls he has slept with or just hating on because the girl has not allowed the guy to sleep with her . The worst is when a woman is married and now the guys want to start saying “So did you hear Jennifer is married, dude I use to beat that shit up all time ect ect ect”. Why? Why do you feel the need to comment on that as a man, what is that doing for you? Is it growing your money, is it making your value rise? What is the point? She is a married woman now and you deem it acceptable to speak of her in this manner?

I was involved in a relationship once and the guy explained some things to me because I had a lot of male friends. No I wasn’t sleeping with them, we were just cool. I have never really been the type to hang out with a bunch of women. One day I was collecting donations for a church function we were having, I was on the phone with my boyfriend but I had to stop by my friend’s house to collect the check. It was about 10:45pm and the friend was a guy. My boyfriend knew what I was doing but when I came out he gave me some good advice that I still use till this day. He said “now even though I know the reason you stopped at his house what if his friend happened to drop by? Do you know what they would assume? They would think you are about to smash or you just got done. Then he will go and say something to someone else and so on and so forth”. This could be considered an extreme example but I understood what he is saying and changed my movements and made a point to get more girlfriends in my life I could hang and chill with. I don’t want anyones wife, girlfriend, sidechick, chick he smashes on occasion, or anyone else for that matter to think one thing or another.

Even with all that, the sad truth is guys will be guys and they are going to talk whether its true or not. Some of the girls they talk about are truly whores and others not so much at the end of the day it’s all about how you carry yourself that will make people think otherwise. If you have only HEARD things about someone I implore you to make your own decsion about them before writing him or her off, you could be missing out on the best thing that ever happened to you all because of what one bitter person or person that doesn’t even know them said!

 

P.S. hating ass females do the same thing. They will say something to a guy about you bc they are jealous or bc they want the guy but can’t get him. So fellas don’t listen when women tell you negative things about other women bc females ALWAYS have an agenda #justsaying

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