Women From…. Are More Attractive

Entertainment, Relationship

I posted a question on my social media outlets a week or so ago (cheap plug ig: MsLeslieChristina  twitter : mynameisLC) I asked if you would be open to dating someone from a different cultural background or race. Now this question was a bit misleading but I wanted to see how many people were truly open to it. Everyone seemed to be open to it with the exception of one guy on my facebook page.

To be honest I was actually shocked. I really expected more black women to be like no I am sticking with my black brothers. I also expected the African women to say they are sticking with men from their country, to even break it down more their tribe! Now honestly if they didn’t feel this way I guess I couldn’t really expect them to say it. Some people might think they are close minded (shrugs).

What made me ask this question is a conversation that I had with a long time acquaintance. This particular guy (sigh) well lets just say he has made many outlandish comments over the years I have known him. So we were chit chatting and somehow we got on the topic of women. Keep in mind he is a Nigerian guy born in Nigeria been here since he was in high school. He tells me he isn’t attracted to Nigerian women. I have heard this before from Nigerian guys. I remember telling one girl I know this who is Nigerian and she told me they only tell me that because they guys want to get in my pants (Shade).

When this guy said that to me I was offeneded, no I am not Nigerian (Its true I don’t have time to explain read “The Struggle”) but many of… wait almost all the women I hang around are.  He asked me “Why are you getting offeneded, I’m on your team. I love Black Americans and Latinas”. I guess this comment was suppose to win him brownie points with me. However I just was annoyed.

I’m on your team? What the hell does that mean? I am on the team of black women American, Caribbean, African ect. I told him he was very stupid for that comment and that I don’t think it’s the fact that he isn’t attracted to Nigerian women, it’s the fact that he doesn’t want to do what it takes to be with a woman from Nigeria.  Its simply laziness on his part, not wanting to go through the proper channels to be with her.

With women like Omotola, Genevieve, Sharon Oja,  Tiwa Savage, Seyi Shay (My girl crush), I could go on and on how can you say that Nigerian women aren’t attractive?

Seyi Shay

Omotola

Genevieve Nnaji

I would have felt the same way if an American Black guy said he doesn’t like black girls. My question is why? What did you mother, sisters, aunts, cousins do to you to turn you against you own women? Do you think your family members are ugly? I am sure the answer is no  and he would be offened if someone came to his sister or cousin saying they didn’t find them attractive bc of where they were born.

As of late I am happy to see more Nigerian women dating men outside of their race. Many Nigerian guys have an issue with Nigerian women datig and marrying other races, like many black men don’t like to see black women dating men from other races. I really don’t get it. These men go around the world and taste all the colors of the rainbow but as soon as women from their background does it; its an issue.

I have always had the mindset that if you don’t want to date/ marry someone from your own race or culture its not because of those people its your own issues you need to work through. I say this from experience. There is nothing wrong with being with someone from a different race or background, the fault is when you say a whole group of people are unattractive. Miss me with all that ignorance!

LUX MONROE *Chic Boutique*

Entertainment, Fashion, NEWS

 

 

Bye no means am I a shopper but when I find a good thing I love to share it! I follow a boutique called Lux Monroe on instagram and noticed this wasn’t just an online shop but an actual store. I love to support local businesses so I decided to drop in and started talking to a young lady there only to find out she was the owner. She was pleasant and you can tell she really has a passion for her work.

Love this

Laci Jackson opened up LUX MONROE on W. Alabama in the Galleria area after doing trunk shows and different events for about three years “it was a God thing I was driving, and I made the decision that I wanted to go out and find a location. I had a budget of what I could afford and I don’t even know why I was in the Galleria area, but I got out of my car and just started walking and found something great” said Jackson.

 

As we continued our conversation I noticed that the clothes and pieces were bold (which I like) Jackson stated “clothing has been the latest edition to my business but it has been the best part, my clothing is very different nothing you can find in the mall. I have statement pieces; bold fashion that I would say is for divas!!!” Lux Monroe’s clothing is sexy, bold, and fun perfect for a night out on the town and perfect for all the divas out there!

Every girl needs a good Romper

Every girl needs a good Romper

Black and White Romper

I love supporting local businesses but more importantly I like to support other women, more important than supporting women, I like to support YOUNG women! Laci is 23 years old and she is already making moves to build an empire. Ladies and gents reading this (men by for your wives, girlfriends ect) take time follow @luxlaci on Instagram and support!

Meet Laci Jackson founder of Lux Monroe

 

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10 Guys You Should Run From

Entertainment, Relationship

10. Mr. No Linens

This guy has no shame and that should worry you. He has no shame because as a grown man he actually invited you to his home in his room (if you guys are going there) and he has no sheets on his bed. Just a mattress with a comforter on it. Ladies don’t gasp its true these type of men exist in the world. If you go to a man’s house and you notice he has no sheets on his bed RUN because he gives no f***s. A man that gives no F***s has nothing to lose!

9. Mr. Glory Days

This guy can’t seem to get over things that happened to him that he feels were great in his younger days. He is now 35 and still reminiscing about when he was 25 at the club with 15 of his CLOSEST friends and they popped 25 bottles between the 15 of them. You know because that night was soooo epic! What about the guy who was the high school basketball star and pretty much that was the end of his career but yet he really hasn’t done much since and is still talking about his former balling days 20 years later. Let it go bro, its over!

8. Mr. Daddy Said

Daddy said I should, or my pops told me to, I don’t want to go there because my dad said…. This has to be the most annoying thing in a man. A man that can’t think for himself is such a turn off. There is nothing wrong with consulting one’s parents because clearly your parents have lived much longer than you, but as a woman I want to know that my man has a mind of his own. A woman wants to know he can take wise counsel and still come to his own conclusion at the end of the day based on what people he trust have advised him. Not someone who just follows. A man that does that follows every single little word his daddy says will have his family running your marriage.

7. Mr. Standing on the Wall

This particular guy has no confidence. He doesn’t like it when you talk about other people or guys that are doing well finically because typically they aren’t doing well in that regard. Sometimes they will even try to hold you back so that you are not “above” them. Basically this guy is insecure about his status in life but really isn’t doing much to change it. RUN RUN RUN unless you want to be looking and longing for the finer things in life.

6. Mr. Boaster

There is nothing like a guy who can talk about all the things he and his family has but yet when you two go to eat he is looking for you to pay the bill (Tufiakwa). This guy will go broke trying to buy the latest pair of Vesace shades to keep up with his friends (who probably actually have money). He will be the fun guy, charismatic, maybe even good in bed but other than that not good for much else. I mean come on ladies you don’t want to be like Erika from Love and Hiphop Atl. Her dude couldn’t even make a dramatic exit because he ran out of gas! LOL He was cute though (If that means anything). The Boaster will constantly be broke and when he does get some money in his pocket he will be running to the Gucci store so he can front and stunt in front of his friends. Don’t run, sprint from this guy, simple running may not be enough!

5. Mr. Has it Together but Still 40 and Single

What is wrong with this one? On the outside he has a good job, nice house, drives a nice car travels, handsome, but what is it?! Mr. Has it together does actually have it together, but here is the catch he can’t commit! This guy may have lost his one true love and has never bounced back, so he dates woman after woman because that’s what he feels he should do, but never really loving them or caring for them. Eventually he will find some young chick marry her and just be existing in the same house with her simply because he doesn’t want to be the old man in the club still chasing 25 year olds. Ladies if you are between the age of 22 and 26 this 40+ man may be for you. Don’t expect any real emotion from him, cook, clean, do your wifely duties and this guy will make you the envy of your friends. Run from this guy if you are 28 and over lol you are too OLD.

4. Mr. I am a Business Man

This Business man can never really tell you what his business is. No matter how you ask he finds some way around telling you what he actually does. He typically is involved with fraud, or fraud, and oh fraud. Ladies he may actually have some money for a little while but you have to run from this guy because he may actually scam YOU. He may ask you to deposit a check or accept a wire transfer into your account from his super rich friend that happens to be in the islands on vacation but can’t seem to find any of his close friends to accept it so he will ask a girl he doesn’t know like me….. uh I mean you to accept it (yes this story is all too familiar). Just run you don’t even want to be associated with this kind of “Business man” as a matter of fact if you see that kind of “business man” just act as if you don’t even know him, because if you do people may come for you looking for him and he will be gone!

3. Mr. Better Than Sliced Bread

Sliced bread is good. Its convenient. I can make a sandwich out of sliced bread, I can even toast sliced bread. However I don’t need my man thinking he is better than it. This guy feels like he is God’s gift to women, hell now-a-days to man too! He thinks everyone wants him, he thinks he is the heaven, moon, and stars. A man that worships himself cannot even treat his woman properly because he feels if she is not worshiping the ground he walks on she is actually doing an injustice to herself. This man does not need a woman all he needs is a gym and a mirror; that is the perfect relationship for him!

2. Mr. Party Party Party

We ALLLLL know this guy, we have dated, slept with, wanted to date, wanted to sleep with this guy (not me ooo other people lol). This guy is standing on the couch poppin bottles, knows everyone, hanging tough, drives a nice car, has all the beautiful women around, always posting what party city he is in on IG or FB. The thing about this guy is unless you have crack between your legs and you do juju this guy is not trying to settle down, not for a long while anyway. If you like playing the waiting game, watching him with other chicks until its your turn again then hey this may be the man for you. Until that long awaited time when he comes to his senses you will see him spend 2k in the club in one night and nothing or minimal on you the whole time you were in a “relationship” if that’s what you want to call it. Ladies stay away from this guy he is not serious and probably has slept with your friend, or tried to sleep with your friend and then when that didn’t pan out try to come talk to you lol (trust me this kind of stuff happens).

1. Mr. I Want a Nurse

The highly coveted NURSE!!!! The women that should read this number one probably have no idea who I am or about this blog. She is the village girl roughly 20 or so that will soon be swept off her feet by a 45 year old Uncle that has been driving cab for the past 25 years. This guy will live in the slums to ensure that he saves up the proper amount of money to go back to his country and pick the hottest girl from his village (I said girl bc usually she will be very young about half his age). After he has brought her to America she will be instructed that she must go to school and become a nurse and now she will be the one to take care of the “land pilot” (anyone that has seen the movie “My American Nurse” knows what that is lol) It happens all the time. After the girl has been here for some time she starts to know her rights and these men cannot handle it. Many have resulted to killing their wives who they feel have stepped out of line. Ladies abroad we know about these guys but inform your sisters back home!

 

I want to send a special shout out to @adamilan (Follow her on Instagram)for helping me come up with this topic. Oh yea she make super awesome luxury custom made wigs… you will see mine very soon! Make sure to follow her on IG so you can order your own wig. Stop messing with glue that takes out your edges, do you want to look like Naomi Campbell, get one of her custom made wigs just for you!

 

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#JusticeForJada

NEWS

#Jadapose

 

Social media is an active part of everyone’s lives. Even if you boycott against Facebook, you are probably on twitter, if you boycott against twitter you are probably on Instagram, or maybe you are like me and on all three. Social media if used for good can be great, I have seen it unite the world for a cause. I know a guy who used social media to help raise money for his mother to help her get cancer treatments, people from all around the world gave money for that.  Whether he knew them or not everyone can relate to wanting to help their mother. Even though the girls are still lost, the world came together when it was made known that 200 plus school girls had been abducted in Nigeria. Social media is indeed a great thing, but how about when social media goes wrong?

Recently this tag #jadapose was brought to my attention. Apparently this young lady, Jada was at a friend’s house where she was drugged and raped. After the rape they decided to take a picture of her naked unconscious body and post it on social media. You would think at this point kids would be like “this isn’t right” “we should inform someone” ect. Instead the kids, her peers started doing the pose that she did in the picture when she was unconscious and raped calling it the #jadapose. Boys and girls alike participated in this act.  They would lay on the ground and imitate Jada.

Young boys mocking Jadas  rape picture

Young boys mocking Jadas rape picture

 

Jada Pose

 

 

I don’t know in what world imitaiting someone who was just raped is a cool thing. This tells us that something is seriously flawed in our youth. Maybe social media has removed feeling and emotion from certain situations. Our youth are exposed to so many things online that there is no shock value anymore. The shock value has been raised so high that its starting to get to a point where people are just doing stupid things because they want someone to look at them. Did this generation not get enough hugs? How many fights can we see on Facebook and Instagram? We know how its going to end, someone is going to be talking sh!t and the other person will more than likely knock them out, end of story. Yet every other post on my new feed is people fighting. Now I guess fighting has gotten boring and so we are highlighting a young girls rape!

I have never been raped and thank God but I can imagine that it would feel like a serious violation. I feel violated when someone touches me unwarranted not to mention if someone drugged me and had their way with me. For someone at the age of 16 to be going through this so publicly takes courage and strength. This is such a private matter and most rape victims don’t even speak up until years later or not at all. Whether she wanted to or not her face and her body was displayed for all to see, then mocked in a cartoonish fashion for others amusement. I stand with Jada because no one deserves to be treated like that, no one deserves to have a piece of themselves taken away and then exposed for the world to see in such a humiliating manner. As I am writing this I am just getting more upset, because it baffles me how people think they have a right to do things to other people such as killing, raping, causing emotional or psychical harm ect. It’s just ridiculous, what kind home were the boys that did this raised in? Houston has been a part of a lot of things but I never thought promoting drugging a young girl and raping her would be one of them.

Despite of all the ugliness that has been going viral regarding this issue there has been many people stepping up to support Jada, including her parents who are her rock during this time. I also searched online and many of her friends as well as complete strangers are speaking up loudly against this foolishness, I even found a song done by an artist named King Fredrick (click his name to hear the song). Watching the interview that Jada did with KHOU she looks like a brave girl who is ready and willing to be the voice for this cause. I always like to see the light at the end of the tunnel and here the light seems dim but I have a good feeling Jada will bounce back and become stronger.  There is still an investigation going on but I hope justice will prevail. Spread the word that having a woman by force is not the new thing, cool, funny, or manly!

 

 

No Parent should have to go through this with their child

No Parent should have to go through this with their child

 

We are here for you Jada!

#JusticeforJada

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Please share and hashtag #justiceforjada

Please share and hashtag #justiceforjada

“Oh I’m Celibate”

Entertainment, Relationship

When women get together and talk we can be worse than men sometimes. Naturally we are detailed in many aspects of life so why wouldn’t we be when it comes to talking about sex? When we (women) are in the midst of telling some juicy sex gist there is always one chick that is like “Hmm I wouldn’t know about that I don’t have sex”. Can we say Debbie downer?!  Why do we need to know you are celibate? Celibate lets me know you have had sex so if someone is talking about d*** you know exactly what it is and have dealt with it, probably on several occasions. Why act brand new, getting the d is like riding a bike, you never forget!

 

NO SEX

Do not get me wrong if there are people out there who have decided to go that route, great for you!!! I am symbolically clapping for you. I just do not feel like I need to know. There are men who choose this path but they are not loud about it. They tell the woman they are dating as they should, but they aren’t around announcing it to the world. WOMEN lawd lawd lawd want to tell everyone! “Hey look at me, I don’t have sex” “ A penis no, no, no I have seen one in 3 years” “whoa girl I haven’t had sex in so long, but that guy right there; IF I was having sex girl he could get it”. It’s too much, it really is. How many people do you hear walking around talking about “Hey look at me I’m f******” “Just in case you all were wondering I AM SEXUALLY ACTIVE” “I can hardly wait to my next piece of D”. I don’t know about you but I have never heard a woman say this, but yet the Celibatians (I just gave them that name lol not an actual term) feel like they need to let everyone know. I guess maybe they feel like it is winning them some brownie points somewhere.

When I hear a Celibatian speak, celebrating how they aren’t getting any to people who really don’t care (its true we don’t) I always think, there is a reason why this woman is celibate and telling everyone! Some women just want to wait until they are married after they have “slipped” and had sex with someone who maybe didn’t appreciate them.  Scenario two they were getting down with everyone and decided hey I am on the borderline of being a hoe let me cease and desist giving up the booty for a while.  When I hear women say that she doesn’t have sex I always think the latter. I could be wrong but that’s what pops into my head. Usually when people do something extreme there is a reason for it.

I think being celibate is not easy and everyone that is participating in that currently my hats off to you but just keep it to yourself until you meet the person you want to be with and tell them because in all actuality that is the only person that needs to know what you are doing and have done with your vagina.

 

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How Important Is The Value Of Your Name

Entertainment, Gossip

Yesterday I was involved in a lively group chat on Groupme. My cousin is getting married and his wife started a GroupMe chat for all the asoebi ladies. We talked about this and we talked about that. Keep in mind these ladies are from all over the country. One lady asked “Whats up with the Houston guys (Nigerian guys)? I have thought about moving there but I heard the dating scene in Houston is tough.” This is not the first time I have heard women in other parts of the country talk about the Nigerian guys in Houston. It seems they have made quite a reputation for themselves. I responded to her with “I think if you grew up or went to college here its hard because you may have slept with one guy, maybe two, possibly seen having lunch with 3 (as friends) and someone has seen you and now you are labeled as a ho”

Yup!!! That’s exactly the way it works. There could be a group of guys sitting around and a girl will walk by and the guy will randomly say “Oh yea so and so smashed her” keep in mind the guy that is saying all of this may have never even spoken two words to the girl EVER in his life but he THINKS he knows who she has let in-between her legs.

Women are not exempt from this either. There was/is a girl I know and every time you mention a guys name that is interested in you she knows someone he did wrong, use to date, or he has tried to holla at her. Now if I tell you about a guy that I am into why do I care to hear about him and your homegirl I do not know nor do I care about? Furthermore if I am interested in a guy how is telling me that he tried to “Holla” at you going to help me out? Some womans’ definition of “holla” is suspect. A guy may say oh “Ngozi you are a fine babe you know I am going to make you my wife” and the girl will now walk around with her head in the clouds like “Emeka wants me oooo” NO NO NO he does not want you lol and that’s not hollering. Anyway I digress (I do that often)

The name spoiling has just gotten out of control especially among the guys. The reason I say it’s among the guys is because some guys will go around and ruin a girl’s name because she turned him down. Yes guys lie on their dicks all the time, but if one guy is sitting with another and say “Oh yea I hit that” is the guy that he is telling that to going to go ask the girl “Hey did you and John have sex?” of course not!!! (Negro you ain’t gotsta lie) He will take John at his word and keep it moving scratching that girl off of his list as a potential and also discouraging any of his friends from talking to her as well by simply saying “I heard she smashed so and so” or “I mean you can talk to her if you want to but I mean… I don’t know dude” boom she is done!

 

rumors

A lot can be said for a guy who feels the need to ruin the name of girls he has slept with or just hating on because the girl has not allowed the guy to sleep with her . The worst is when a woman is married and now the guys want to start saying “So did you hear Jennifer is married, dude I use to beat that shit up all time ect ect ect”. Why? Why do you feel the need to comment on that as a man, what is that doing for you? Is it growing your money, is it making your value rise? What is the point? She is a married woman now and you deem it acceptable to speak of her in this manner?

I was involved in a relationship once and the guy explained some things to me because I had a lot of male friends. No I wasn’t sleeping with them, we were just cool. I have never really been the type to hang out with a bunch of women. One day I was collecting donations for a church function we were having, I was on the phone with my boyfriend but I had to stop by my friend’s house to collect the check. It was about 10:45pm and the friend was a guy. My boyfriend knew what I was doing but when I came out he gave me some good advice that I still use till this day. He said “now even though I know the reason you stopped at his house what if his friend happened to drop by? Do you know what they would assume? They would think you are about to smash or you just got done. Then he will go and say something to someone else and so on and so forth”. This could be considered an extreme example but I understood what he is saying and changed my movements and made a point to get more girlfriends in my life I could hang and chill with. I don’t want anyones wife, girlfriend, sidechick, chick he smashes on occasion, or anyone else for that matter to think one thing or another.

Even with all that, the sad truth is guys will be guys and they are going to talk whether its true or not. Some of the girls they talk about are truly whores and others not so much at the end of the day it’s all about how you carry yourself that will make people think otherwise. If you have only HEARD things about someone I implore you to make your own decsion about them before writing him or her off, you could be missing out on the best thing that ever happened to you all because of what one bitter person or person that doesn’t even know them said!

 

P.S. hating ass females do the same thing. They will say something to a guy about you bc they are jealous or bc they want the guy but can’t get him. So fellas don’t listen when women tell you negative things about other women bc females ALWAYS have an agenda #justsaying

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How Well Do You Know Banky W?

Entertainment, Gossip

I had the pleasure of interviewing the handsome and talented Banky W. This was one of the most fun and candid interviews I have had with any artist. S/o to Banky for being a down to earth cool guy. Check out this throw back interview and tell me what you think!

 

 

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