Women From…. Are More Attractive

Entertainment, Relationship

I posted a question on my social media outlets a week or so ago (cheap plug ig: MsLeslieChristina  twitter : mynameisLC) I asked if you would be open to dating someone from a different cultural background or race. Now this question was a bit misleading but I wanted to see how many people were truly open to it. Everyone seemed to be open to it with the exception of one guy on my facebook page.

To be honest I was actually shocked. I really expected more black women to be like no I am sticking with my black brothers. I also expected the African women to say they are sticking with men from their country, to even break it down more their tribe! Now honestly if they didn’t feel this way I guess I couldn’t really expect them to say it. Some people might think they are close minded (shrugs).

What made me ask this question is a conversation that I had with a long time acquaintance. This particular guy (sigh) well lets just say he has made many outlandish comments over the years I have known him. So we were chit chatting and somehow we got on the topic of women. Keep in mind he is a Nigerian guy born in Nigeria been here since he was in high school. He tells me he isn’t attracted to Nigerian women. I have heard this before from Nigerian guys. I remember telling one girl I know this who is Nigerian and she told me they only tell me that because they guys want to get in my pants (Shade).

When this guy said that to me I was offeneded, no I am not Nigerian (Its true I don’t have time to explain read “The Struggle”) but many of… wait almost all the women I hang around are.  He asked me “Why are you getting offeneded, I’m on your team. I love Black Americans and Latinas”. I guess this comment was suppose to win him brownie points with me. However I just was annoyed.

I’m on your team? What the hell does that mean? I am on the team of black women American, Caribbean, African ect. I told him he was very stupid for that comment and that I don’t think it’s the fact that he isn’t attracted to Nigerian women, it’s the fact that he doesn’t want to do what it takes to be with a woman from Nigeria.  Its simply laziness on his part, not wanting to go through the proper channels to be with her.

With women like Omotola, Genevieve, Sharon Oja,  Tiwa Savage, Seyi Shay (My girl crush), I could go on and on how can you say that Nigerian women aren’t attractive?

Seyi Shay

Omotola

Genevieve Nnaji

I would have felt the same way if an American Black guy said he doesn’t like black girls. My question is why? What did you mother, sisters, aunts, cousins do to you to turn you against you own women? Do you think your family members are ugly? I am sure the answer is no  and he would be offened if someone came to his sister or cousin saying they didn’t find them attractive bc of where they were born.

As of late I am happy to see more Nigerian women dating men outside of their race. Many Nigerian guys have an issue with Nigerian women datig and marrying other races, like many black men don’t like to see black women dating men from other races. I really don’t get it. These men go around the world and taste all the colors of the rainbow but as soon as women from their background does it; its an issue.

I have always had the mindset that if you don’t want to date/ marry someone from your own race or culture its not because of those people its your own issues you need to work through. I say this from experience. There is nothing wrong with being with someone from a different race or background, the fault is when you say a whole group of people are unattractive. Miss me with all that ignorance!

Forget Normal… Hello Bi-polar

Relationship

I am not sure why people come to me for relationship advice, but people do! For others I seem to give sound advice (I guess) but when it comes to myself I don’t know up from down, or left to right! Its actually quite crazy.

I had my dentist tell me “I’m too logical” and because of that it will be hard for me to find a man. Yes my dentist and I were cool! He was an OLD man, an old Kappa to be exact who had been divorced 3 times. I figured after 3 marriages he knew a thing or two  but like me didn’t know how to apply it to himself. When he said that, I prayed and rebuked that in the name of Jesus, how will you tell me that I will not get a man because I am too logical? A man should want that; a woman that doesn’t go off the emotional deep end, right?

However it seems to be the crazy @#%$!  getting married (no shade to all my married friends, you ladies are to the exception lol). You know the type that go crazy, that are nuts if you push them.  I’m like what the eff man? Look I just don’t have the energy for all of that. I really don’t. It takes too much time and attention to throw fits, sneak through your mans phone, follow him ect. Is that what love is, because if so, I may want that ship to sail.

According to New York Times who interviewed various men, they said things like “She was never boring”, “it was like figuring out a puzzle” ect ect ect it goes on and on. So working, being cute, self- sufficient, not needy, not bitchy, is dull? I’m so confused.  So sensible women are out and crazy women are in? I think guys SAY they don’t want a mentally disturbed woman but end up with chicks that are a little bit turnt in the head.  They don’t realize it until they are the show “Snapped”!

I mean….. I want to put the effort into getting a spouse but not if it means I have to step out of my element. I want to be the cool, chill chick that I am. I am not going to make a fuss unless I REALLY have to. I know there are other ladies out there like me. You know busy with various things, work, school, multiple businesses, just making things happen for themselves. The last thing we need is a man who doesn’t know what he wants …. Or maybe they do! A PSYCHOPATH (now I’m just being childish). No matter how many people you see walk down aisle don’t change yourself for anyone, unless you are changing yourself for you! “Dull” women unite! (Yea I said that).

COFFEE

“Oh I’m Celibate”

Entertainment, Relationship

When women get together and talk we can be worse than men sometimes. Naturally we are detailed in many aspects of life so why wouldn’t we be when it comes to talking about sex? When we (women) are in the midst of telling some juicy sex gist there is always one chick that is like “Hmm I wouldn’t know about that I don’t have sex”. Can we say Debbie downer?!  Why do we need to know you are celibate? Celibate lets me know you have had sex so if someone is talking about d*** you know exactly what it is and have dealt with it, probably on several occasions. Why act brand new, getting the d is like riding a bike, you never forget!

 

NO SEX

Do not get me wrong if there are people out there who have decided to go that route, great for you!!! I am symbolically clapping for you. I just do not feel like I need to know. There are men who choose this path but they are not loud about it. They tell the woman they are dating as they should, but they aren’t around announcing it to the world. WOMEN lawd lawd lawd want to tell everyone! “Hey look at me, I don’t have sex” “ A penis no, no, no I have seen one in 3 years” “whoa girl I haven’t had sex in so long, but that guy right there; IF I was having sex girl he could get it”. It’s too much, it really is. How many people do you hear walking around talking about “Hey look at me I’m f******” “Just in case you all were wondering I AM SEXUALLY ACTIVE” “I can hardly wait to my next piece of D”. I don’t know about you but I have never heard a woman say this, but yet the Celibatians (I just gave them that name lol not an actual term) feel like they need to let everyone know. I guess maybe they feel like it is winning them some brownie points somewhere.

When I hear a Celibatian speak, celebrating how they aren’t getting any to people who really don’t care (its true we don’t) I always think, there is a reason why this woman is celibate and telling everyone! Some women just want to wait until they are married after they have “slipped” and had sex with someone who maybe didn’t appreciate them.  Scenario two they were getting down with everyone and decided hey I am on the borderline of being a hoe let me cease and desist giving up the booty for a while.  When I hear women say that she doesn’t have sex I always think the latter. I could be wrong but that’s what pops into my head. Usually when people do something extreme there is a reason for it.

I think being celibate is not easy and everyone that is participating in that currently my hats off to you but just keep it to yourself until you meet the person you want to be with and tell them because in all actuality that is the only person that needs to know what you are doing and have done with your vagina.

 

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