Women From…. Are More Attractive

I posted a question on my social media outlets a week or so ago (cheap plug ig: MsLeslieChristina  twitter : mynameisLC) I asked if you would be open to dating someone from a different cultural background or race. Now this question was a bit misleading but I wanted to see how many people were truly open to it. Everyone seemed to be open to it with the exception of one guy on my facebook page.

To be honest I was actually shocked. I really expected more black women to be like no I am sticking with my black brothers. I also expected the African women to say they are sticking with men from their country, to even break it down more their tribe! Now honestly if they didn’t feel this way I guess I couldn’t really expect them to say it. Some people might think they are close minded (shrugs).

What made me ask this question is a conversation that I had with a long time acquaintance. This particular guy (sigh) well lets just say he has made many outlandish comments over the years I have known him. So we were chit chatting and somehow we got on the topic of women. Keep in mind he is a Nigerian guy born in Nigeria been here since he was in high school. He tells me he isn’t attracted to Nigerian women. I have heard this before from Nigerian guys. I remember telling one girl I know this who is Nigerian and she told me they only tell me that because they guys want to get in my pants (Shade).

When this guy said that to me I was offeneded, no I am not Nigerian (Its true I don’t have time to explain read “The Struggle”) but many of… wait almost all the women I hang around are.  He asked me “Why are you getting offeneded, I’m on your team. I love Black Americans and Latinas”. I guess this comment was suppose to win him brownie points with me. However I just was annoyed.

I’m on your team? What the hell does that mean? I am on the team of black women American, Caribbean, African ect. I told him he was very stupid for that comment and that I don’t think it’s the fact that he isn’t attracted to Nigerian women, it’s the fact that he doesn’t want to do what it takes to be with a woman from Nigeria.  Its simply laziness on his part, not wanting to go through the proper channels to be with her.

With women like Omotola, Genevieve, Sharon Oja,  Tiwa Savage, Seyi Shay (My girl crush), I could go on and on how can you say that Nigerian women aren’t attractive?

I would have felt the same way if an American Black guy said he doesn’t like black girls. My question is why? What did you mother, sisters, aunts, cousins do to you to turn you against you own women? Do you think your family members are ugly? I am sure the answer is no  and he would be offened if someone came to his sister or cousin saying they didn’t find them attractive bc of where they were born.

As of late I am happy to see more Nigerian women dating men outside of their race. Many Nigerian guys have an issue with Nigerian women datig and marrying other races, like many black men don’t like to see black women dating men from other races. I really don’t get it. These men go around the world and taste all the colors of the rainbow but as soon as women from their background does it; its an issue.

I have always had the mindset that if you don’t want to date/ marry someone from your own race or culture its not because of those people its your own issues you need to work through. I say this from experience. There is nothing wrong with being with someone from a different race or background, the fault is when you say a whole group of people are unattractive. Miss me with all that ignorance!

Don’t Be Surprised If She Ask Where The Cash At

 

A few weeks ago I posted a video of a lady begging guys not to come her way if they are broke. It was actually kind of funny, but some of the things she said disturbed me a bit. I didn’t give my thoughts on my page but today I want to share how she (the lady in the video) was right and wrong.

In the video the woman explained that if you approach a woman and she looks good you should help maintain that look especially if she is doing things a woman should do for a man. I assume she meant smashing ect but mainly smashing and less of the ect. To a certain degree I agree with her, yes I do! Fellas if you are attracted to a woman who looks like a million bucks more than likely she probably doesn’t have anything to her name and is looking for someone to help maintain that look. So if you want to hit that be ready to come out of pocket simple. Trust me she will expect it. If you don’t want to deal with it then don’t go her way simple.

How can you tell a woman like this, she usually has labels warring all over the place from head to toe, long long weave, is out all the time on the scene, make up is usually very heavy, only hangs around big rollers even though she can barely pay her phone bill, oh and her red bottoms cost more than her cash car she bought almost 6 years ago, and how can I forget if her face says half cast but her hands looks like her people came from Ghana (no offense to my Ghanaian beauties, black is beautiful). Gold digging chicks love to bleach. The girl in the video was sitting on the floor in a room that appeared to be small considering the only background scene she could pick was that next to a shoe rack and some other cluttered mess. Maybe her mattress was on the floor too. She clearly has nothing going on besides trying to bed men for material things.

Her mentality on relationships was messed up as well. She said something along the lines of “When the relationship is over you will talk bad about me anyway” that tells me she doesn’t care to have a long lasting relationship. She is already anticipating the relationships demise. She wants to get what she can from the guy and then move on to the next.

If you are with a woman and when you met her she had herself packaged well, meaning she gets her hair done, lashes, makeup, nails, gym membership, you get it. As a man that is with her you should want to do those things bc you love and value her. Not because she warms your bed at night and cooks you food. A dog can lay next to you and you can always get some aunty to cook you your favorite stew without the headache of a woman.  There needs to be more than sex and food although some may say that is the easiest way to a man’s heart.

Being an independent woman doesn’t mean we don’t want a man to do for us, that just means we don’t NEED a man to do for us. This chick in the video appears she needs a man to do for her its a very clear and distinct difference.  I guess what you can take away from this post is fellas if you are going after a woman who appears to be high maintenance then my broda be ready to open your wallets simple! Also on the same note women like to be pampered and no matter how independent she is its nice to have a guy be thoughtful enough to say hey you are getting your hair done? Don’t worry I got you or oh you are going shopping come lets use my car and my credit card. Do it bc you care about her not bc you are sleeping with her.  Last thing to take away is watch out for women with two tone bodies they are sure to chop all your money on bleaching cream to become one tone lol.

 

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How Important Is The Value Of Your Name

Yesterday I was involved in a lively group chat on Groupme. My cousin is getting married and his wife started a GroupMe chat for all the asoebi ladies. We talked about this and we talked about that. Keep in mind these ladies are from all over the country. One lady asked “Whats up with the Houston guys (Nigerian guys)? I have thought about moving there but I heard the dating scene in Houston is tough.” This is not the first time I have heard women in other parts of the country talk about the Nigerian guys in Houston. It seems they have made quite a reputation for themselves. I responded to her with “I think if you grew up or went to college here its hard because you may have slept with one guy, maybe two, possibly seen having lunch with 3 (as friends) and someone has seen you and now you are labeled as a ho”

Yup!!! That’s exactly the way it works. There could be a group of guys sitting around and a girl will walk by and the guy will randomly say “Oh yea so and so smashed her” keep in mind the guy that is saying all of this may have never even spoken two words to the girl EVER in his life but he THINKS he knows who she has let in-between her legs.

Women are not exempt from this either. There was/is a girl I know and every time you mention a guys name that is interested in you she knows someone he did wrong, use to date, or he has tried to holla at her. Now if I tell you about a guy that I am into why do I care to hear about him and your homegirl I do not know nor do I care about? Furthermore if I am interested in a guy how is telling me that he tried to “Holla” at you going to help me out? Some womans’ definition of “holla” is suspect. A guy may say oh “Ngozi you are a fine babe you know I am going to make you my wife” and the girl will now walk around with her head in the clouds like “Emeka wants me oooo” NO NO NO he does not want you lol and that’s not hollering. Anyway I digress (I do that often)

The name spoiling has just gotten out of control especially among the guys. The reason I say it’s among the guys is because some guys will go around and ruin a girl’s name because she turned him down. Yes guys lie on their dicks all the time, but if one guy is sitting with another and say “Oh yea I hit that” is the guy that he is telling that to going to go ask the girl “Hey did you and John have sex?” of course not!!! (Negro you ain’t gotsta lie) He will take John at his word and keep it moving scratching that girl off of his list as a potential and also discouraging any of his friends from talking to her as well by simply saying “I heard she smashed so and so” or “I mean you can talk to her if you want to but I mean… I don’t know dude” boom she is done!

 

A lot can be said for a guy who feels the need to ruin the name of girls he has slept with or just hating on because the girl has not allowed the guy to sleep with her . The worst is when a woman is married and now the guys want to start saying “So did you hear Jennifer is married, dude I use to beat that shit up all time ect ect ect”. Why? Why do you feel the need to comment on that as a man, what is that doing for you? Is it growing your money, is it making your value rise? What is the point? She is a married woman now and you deem it acceptable to speak of her in this manner?

I was involved in a relationship once and the guy explained some things to me because I had a lot of male friends. No I wasn’t sleeping with them, we were just cool. I have never really been the type to hang out with a bunch of women. One day I was collecting donations for a church function we were having, I was on the phone with my boyfriend but I had to stop by my friend’s house to collect the check. It was about 10:45pm and the friend was a guy. My boyfriend knew what I was doing but when I came out he gave me some good advice that I still use till this day. He said “now even though I know the reason you stopped at his house what if his friend happened to drop by? Do you know what they would assume? They would think you are about to smash or you just got done. Then he will go and say something to someone else and so on and so forth”. This could be considered an extreme example but I understood what he is saying and changed my movements and made a point to get more girlfriends in my life I could hang and chill with. I don’t want anyones wife, girlfriend, sidechick, chick he smashes on occasion, or anyone else for that matter to think one thing or another.

Even with all that, the sad truth is guys will be guys and they are going to talk whether its true or not. Some of the girls they talk about are truly whores and others not so much at the end of the day it’s all about how you carry yourself that will make people think otherwise. If you have only HEARD things about someone I implore you to make your own decsion about them before writing him or her off, you could be missing out on the best thing that ever happened to you all because of what one bitter person or person that doesn’t even know them said!

 

P.S. hating ass females do the same thing. They will say something to a guy about you bc they are jealous or bc they want the guy but can’t get him. So fellas don’t listen when women tell you negative things about other women bc females ALWAYS have an agenda #justsaying

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LOVE or Marriage

Love or marriage, that is the question, ideally every girl would like to have both but as I am seeing more and more weddings happening I am starting to think many women are just choosing to be married, just to say they are married. I get it, their status changes, maybe others will look at them with more respect, and some feel like it’s just the next step in life. Would you choose marriage if you knew your guy was cheating on you, or if you felt that wasn’t the right person? It seems many women are choosing money or status. In the Nigerian community marriage is celebrated with extravagance, who has the biggest wedding and who can do the most! I love attending flashy weddings but what I have noticed is the flashiest couples and weddings are hiding the most secrets. I am not here to put anyone on blast, no, no, no, no, after  all you married him or her so you knew what you were getting into before you entered the union and others  found out!

I have a friend of mine who does not live in the same city as me; as a matter of fact she doesn’t even live in the same country. She was talking to one of her friends who lives in my city and asked me if I knew a particular person that the girl was mentioning. I said “I did not but have seen her around” she said “well I think she is getting a divorce because my friend (her friend) said she has pulled down all her wedding pictures from Facebook and has been spotted out taking pictures with no ring on”. “Oh really, that doesn’t surprise me in this city” I said “really” my friend replied, I said “yea men cheat left and right bc it’s so easy for them to do so here”. Now I am not saying it’s a Nigerian man thing to cheat (although many that make money feel entitled to do so) it’s a MAN thing to cheat and I am not saying all men cheat. Just so you all do not think I am a man hater because I am soooo not!

The person in question is one part of a popular couple, so when they got married it was a big deal eeevvvery body was at their wedding. I think I may have even crashed this wedding (don’t judge me lol). So even though the wedding was flashy clearly the break up is not (if it’s true). That whole conversation made me think of another situation that a friend was telling me about. Basically someone that she knew very well and knows the wife (then fiancé) saw the guy out with some other chick and knew the chick that the guy was out with. The girl called and asked the girl (side chick) what was up between her and the guy. The girl (side chick) let her know that they had been dating for a while now and had a sexual relationship. I know this is getting confusing lol keep in mind this was not the friend of the girl getting married; this is the friend of the friend to the girl who is getting married (whew). So recap there is the girl who actually knows the bride, that chicks friend saw the bride to be’s fiancé out with a chick she actually knows, called the girl up later to ask her whats up, then went back and told the friend who actually knows the bride to be, which at that point the friend to the bride wanted to say something to the actual bride. GOT IT LOL! Well the actual friend of the bride to be felt compelled to tell her what was going on bc the “side chick” didn’t know she was a side chick. Since the friend of the bride was not the person who actually saw the guy, the two women actually sat the girl down and told her what her man was doing. Obviously the girl was not open to hearing what was being said and cut the two girls off and proceeded to get married to a man who still keeps in touch with the “side chick” periodically. At that point, what is the reason for proceeding with the wedding? If a man is cheating on you that close to the wedding why would he stop ALL OF A SUDDEN once the wedding is over? For me I don’t know if I would walk away, stay, call the pastor, I just don’t know! I hope that story line wasn’t too confusing didn’t want to use names.

I am a firm believer that many of these women know what their men are doing but chose to over look those things because maybe the guy is well off and is providing the luxury and status they are looking for. Some women don’t really care about anything else but that, status, titles, and MONEY so they will put up with cheating and him gallivanting around town with his stripper chicks, side chicks, girlfriends, and the chick they smash on occasion.

I know another woman who is not Nigerian; she is actually Indian married to a black man. Her husband cheats on her left and right and she knows it. Her motto is that her husband makes over 250k a year and if she divorces him all that’s going to happen is some other chick is going to come in and take her place and snatch all the things she has worked for. Keep in mind its not like she is a bottom of the food chain chick she makes about 90k herself. I get what she is saying but I don’t know if I can respect it. I am not married and I am not in her shoes. But it sure makes me wonder what happened to the love aspect of marriage?

I know it still exist, right? I just feel that sometimes the Nigerian community  try’s to keep up with the Joneses or keep up with the “Okoye’s” it becoming too much. Should you sacrifice true love for some red bottoms and a trip to Dubai? I think not! As long as no one knows about their man’s infidelity they will keep up appearances like its all good. As soon as his secrets come to light now they want to make a stink about it, but the thing is nothing has changed, he has been cheating on you since day one and you knew that.

Every relationship works differently, some couples have that understanding and that’s what works for them. I guess the thing that puzzles me is, this isn’t the old days. The era of being at a man’s mercy like our grandmothers is over. Women these days are educated and paid very well, the only thing a woman NEEDS a man for is companionship. So why put up with the cheating? Not only are some of these men cheating but they aren’t even trying to hide it.

At the end of the day I can’t sit and judge anyone for what they choose to do. Many things about these on the scene flashy couples puzzle me but its their relationship. I guess I just wonder the mindset of the women that these guys are with, because these women can hold their own. Perhaps these ladies did indeed get what most women desire which is LOVE and Marriage but their husbands are just male ASHAWOS (Prostitutes) !!!!! Like the old saying goes “You can’t help who you fall in love with”.

 

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The End

How Well Do You Know Banky W?

I had the pleasure of interviewing the handsome and talented Banky W. This was one of the most fun and candid interviews I have had with any artist. S/o to Banky for being a down to earth cool guy. Check out this throw back interview and tell me what you think!

 

 

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#BringBackOurGirls

The world is screaming bring back our girls!!!! Mothers hearts are heavy with the thought of what their daughters are going through, women around the world relate to the ‘what if’  factor, what if that was me, my sister, cousin, friend… what if? How can we find these girls and take them out of the belly of the beast? Boko Haram has gotten some media attention but the young girls have brought much attention to the West African country of Nigeria. Here in the United States there were several marches to bring awareness to the cause, celebrities have posted pictures , tweets, hash tags ect about this situation in Nigeria.

Everyone is saying PRAY!!! PRAY!!! PRAY!!! Pray for the return of these girls. Yes I am a Christian, I love some Jesus (He’s my homey) but I am a firm believer that God helps those that helps themselves. What people should be asking is what is the Nigerian government doing to get these girls back?  I watched a video on CNN with the Boko Haram “Leader” saying how he sells women. If you watched the same video I saw, he looked shabby and he didn’t speak well, he sounded as if he was a bit mentally slow and the guys behind him looked even worse! So why is it Nigeria, the GIANT of Africa cannot put money together to flush the fools out? Wasn’t it Goodluck  Jonathan’s daughter who recently got married, and custom-made gold iphones were given away as a thank you to guest for attending? For a country where a vast majority of its citizens are living well below the poverty line by any country’s standards that sure is a lavish gift to give! Not only were iphones given away…. Excuse me GOLD plated iphones but the new couple received about 80 cars given to them by different governors and contractors invited to the wedding. I say all this not because I am hating, more power to them whoo hoo for love and money, but not stolen money. That whole wedding was funded with stolen money that should go to the people. What do two people need with 80 cars? Did they even think to donate those cars that they would probably never use for a good cause?

As I was listening to NPR today they reported eight more girls have been taken!!! EIGHT MORE!!!! In that same segment it was said that the United States has sent a team into Nigeria to find the girls. Apparently five years ago when this whole Boko Haram mess started the United States offered assistance but the Nigerian Government said no. Let’s just let that sink in for a minute….. still sinking in. Yes the Nigerian Government said no and on more than one occasion. Why you ask? Because the government thought it would be shameful or embarrassing to ask for outside help. More embarrassing than having thousands of your people killed for…. hmm good question. Yes people this is what you call PRIDE. It gets the best of us but dang really?! This whole Boko Haram thing could have been nipped in the bud a long time ago.

Spokesman Jay Carney said “time is of the essence.” He urged the Nigerian government to ensure that it is using all available resources to ensure the safe return of the girls. Now lets examine that statement “He urged the Nigerian government to ensure that it is using all available resources to ensure the safe return of the girls” hmmmm all available resources. I could go on another rant about how the government is corrupt and all the resources are in a few people’s accounts not trickling down to anyone else, but HEY you already know that story.

I know I sound as if I am just bashing the Nigerian government but the honest truth is this, Western and European countries don’t expect more from black nations. Why should they when Africa always has its hand out looking for aid when all the leaders have the funds in their account. If the money of Nigeria was working for Nigeria, there would be a top of the line Military, with top of the line weapons, the best trained Soldiers ect. Instead you can’t tell if the Soldiers are Boko Haram or is Boko Haram are the Soldiers. Nigeria is a black Nation that does not need any outside help. These girls should have never been taken and when the first group of girls was taken there should have been more done to make sure nothing like this happens again. Unfortunately more were abducted. If this directly affected the officials of Nigeria everyone in the world would have heard that day. If it were not for ALL this media attention Goodluck would be sitting in his home with one of those custom-made gold iphones minding his own business. It is safe to say that man does not care what happens to his people!

 

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419 By Sinzu aka Sauce Kid FRAUD??? Can’t Be

Well we all know rap is about bright lights, fast cars, hot girls, and lots and lots and lots and did I mention LOTS of bling. Rapper Sinzu aka Sauce Kid is the king of that, he is flashy, boastful, talks down on other guys that are not on “his level”. The only thing is, what do you do for a living? We all know he doesn’t have a degree because he has bragged about that, we know he doesn’t have a job in Corporate America because he has bragged about that as well.

The question is, how does Sinzu afford this lavish lifestyle? Houston is notorious for 419, guys do it out here like they are going to a regular 9-5. Sinzu has frequently come to Houston and has many friends out here and recently it has been reported by  ABC that Mr. Sinzu has been doing credit card fraud. SHOCKER!!!!! NO!!!

If you follow Sinzu on any of his social media you know that his daughter is the world to him. I am sure that he wants to provide the best life for her that he can. Is there a way to be the best father for your daughter behind bars? I think not. Did he not learn anything from Frank Lucas, flashy is not the way to go.  There is so much media coverage on him and his lavish life that when he is in front of the judge and the judge ask how do you make your money, what will he say? Clearly it isn’t from rapping as he has said many times he took a whole year off from the game. The smarter route would have been to live modestly, take care of his daughter, and do his music (Since school isn’t on his mind). But hey what do I know? I’m just a part-time blogger and a girl who has seen 419 boys go down time and time again.

Sinzu claims it isn’t him and he released this photo on twitter via his friend, seems fake to me but I guess this is his way of letting us know that it wasn’t him on the surveillance tapes.

 

looks like him to me (shrugs) but what do I know?

 

Not really sure what Godwon has to do with it, I guess bc Godwon exposed Sinzu but that doesn’t mean he made Sinzu steal someone’s credit card and use it. He just simply called you out on it. Godwon and Sinzu have this long time beef going on, which is crazy because they were actually cool at one point. Sounds like some Tupac and Biggy sh!t to me.

All jokes aside I hope Sinzu can number one take care of his daughter in a more upstanding way and secondly produce some good music. Niggas don’t want to go through the struggle to reach the glorious side, everybody wants it here and now, all eyes on them by any means necessary.  Next time we hear from Sinzu, it might be from behind bars

 

 

Do You Have Frenemies?

Why are women so ugly to each other sometimes?! In this video I talk about the signs that you may have a frenemy. Watch it and evaluate your own crew!